Children's access to parents' bedroom

[sunshine]

Should children be allowed in parents' bedroom? If not, why not? If so, when?

This is NOT a cosleeping debate, however, those who cosleep probably do believe children should be allowed in the parents' bedroom.
This is more because growing up I was not allowed in my parents' bedroom... basically ever. When I was small we had a window unit AC so if it was really really hot I would sleep on a cot at the end of their bed. Other than that I was not allowed in my parents bedroom. Heath was always allowed in his parents' bedroom. He was allowed to sleep there, whether they were in there or not, play in there, whatever.
We are having a hard time finding a right balance for us so I was wondering about others.

[mommysjoy2]

Well my kids are always in my room, either sleeping, playing, relaxing. It does not bother DH or I one bit.

[bjaneen]

They can come in but if the door's shut they have to knock first. They are not allowed in there without one of us present.

[julik]

My parents' bedroom was off limits too-I don't think they actually ever made that official, we just kind of knew.

In my own house, our bedroom isn't off limits but it just happens to be the most boring room of the house (at least for the kids;) ) so they don't end up in their very often.

I know what you mean about balance though-I think I gave up that ideal long ago. I have relaxed my definition of "balance" a great deal three kids later. Not saying you shouldn't strive for it though...

[isabelle]

I was allowed in my parents' room, but my brothers & I would never go in there if my parents weren't there. But given the size of dh & my bedroom now (teeny tiny), and the fact that we don't spend any time any there unless we're sleeping, I don't think my future kids would have any reason to go in there if we are not in there, and we don't intend to co-sleep, so I guess while I wouldn't say they wouldn't "be allowed", I think it would be a rare occurence.

[Tashimarie]

we were not allowed in my parents bedroom for any reason whatsoever, however my kids have free access, unless the door is closed they come and go

[michelleL]

Our door is always open literally unless we are having "private" time then we lock it just in case they wake up and try to come in. When we are done we then open it a crack so we can hear what's going on in the night. DUring the day the kids can go in our room but really they don't because it isn't that exciting, they have plenty of other areas to play in so they generally keep out of our room.

[Pixietail]

I don't mind them in my room as long as I am upstairs with them!! I only close the door at "special" time to:lol: then its back open!! Growing up though I was never allowed in my moms room!!

[Just_Me_720]

Originally posted by bjaneen
They can come in but if the door's shut they have to knock first. They are not allowed in there without one of us present.

That is exactly how it is in my house.

[mommy2miracle]

In our home, our children are allowed into our bedroom if they need to get something or if we are in there. We don't allow them in there just to play as they have their own bedrooms, a toy room, and a downstairs gameroom to play in. There is too much they could get hurt on in our room. We don't block them access but we don't allow them complete freedom in there either. The only room in our home which is locked and off access is the office. Among other reasons, the gun safe is in their and although I do use the fireproof safe to store their scrapbooks, coming home outfits, first lost tooth, etc., there also is a disassembled gun in there as my husband likes to hunt on occassion. (This is not to start a hunting debate and YES we do eat the meat) But our bedroom, yes, we do allow them in their on most occassions.

[princessfrench]

I let her in when I'm cleaning it, getting ready, etc. Now when she's older she will have to knock, not if I'm just doing my make up but if DH and I are in there alone, not the we ever have sex anymore but if it ever gets better

[S Renee 22]

We were not allowed in our parents rooms unless we were allowed to be in their to watch tv or something. That made us want to be in their more snooping around and jumping on their bed :lol:

Gage is in our room as long as the gate is up because I know he won't get into stuff he knows he shouldn't be into because everything he shouldn't be in is in a cabinet he can't open. Mariah is allowed in their as long as we are in their too or at least make sure our room is clean. We have controversial stuff in there :blush:

[jacobsmom]

My kids are always allowed in our room, wouldn't think of *NOT* letting them in. Jacob stays in bed and does not get out until he is let out of his room and Emma is still in her crib so we don't have "wandering" children throughout the night or night time. So no one interrupting "special time" for us yet. :lol: :lol: I don't think I would ever *NOT* let my kids in our room. I never was not able to go into my parent's room.

[araceli]

Sam is welcome in our room, but I agree if the door is shut, then he'll have to knock. I don't want it to be a place for him to play and bring all of his toys to leave. He has a room, the yard and our family room for this. I like having my space stay my space to a certain extent. But truth be told, I'd kick my hubby out too if it weren't for the sex! I'd love a feminine, all white bedroom, but alas I'm married, so my room will never be!:lol:

[jpmom97]

My kids are always in my room. Anything I don't want them to see it high in the closet where they can't get to. The only thing I don't let them do it eat in my room, I hate crumbs.

[logan0617]

My bedroom is OFF LIMITS for them!!!! Not because they'll get a shick or something its the one room that is NEAT!!!

My children come in on Sunday mornings but THAT'S IT and they must KNOCK!!!!

[mylove]

I have no problem with dd coming in my room. DH has some issues about it...but its not just her...he doesn't really like anyone in our bedroom cause that is how he grew up...funny enough both his mom and sister have come over and laid down in our bed!! LOL! :) When I was young we practically tucked my parents in. Me and my brother would sit at the foot of the bed every night for about thirty minutes and we would tell stories. It was great! ;)