unassisted miscarriage, anyone else?

[angel wings]

I am certain now that this pregnancy is at its end. I have chosen to do this at home. As the first one was at the hospital and very cold to me. I don't know what to expect. Still only light bleeding, but severe cramping. Anything would help me right now. No medications, or medical intervention. All natural. Kinda strange. I am at peace though. Thanks again for your support. God bless you all.

[JeffsPunkin]

I'm sorry

I'm going through one now. The doctors suggested a D&C but I was freightened so I said I'd wait it out.

I spotted for 14 days, then just last monday I started bleeding really heavy, and I still am 6 days later.

How far along were you? I was at 6 weeks

[angel wings]

Sorry for your loss.

My ultrasound on Monday dated me at 5 wks and 3days. But my estimate was 6w 4 days. This is my second miscarriage, and I have no babies yet. The first one however was a missed abortion. Thanks for getting back to me so soon. I am really scared. I started spotting on Tuesday night. Cramping hit Wednesday, still no heavy bleeding or clots. Have you gone through this before?

[JeffsPunkin]

Originally posted by angel wings
Sorry for your loss.
Have you gone through this before?

No, this is my first time. I didn't know what was up. DH and I have been TTC #1 for 2 1/2 years. I took Clomid this cycle and really thought this was it for us.

My doctor called this a missed abortion too. I really feel guilty, like I could of done something to prevent it. Because, when I started spotting I was on holiday, so I couldn't get to a doctor until I got home.

[angel wings]

Guilt is so very natural. I know that by the time we know something is wrong, it is usually too late to do anything about it anyhow. I have been ttc#1 since 1993. To no avail. I have PCOS w/ severe IR, and I thought the Met and the dex would work this time around as well. I think I have the LPD as well, so my next attempt will include clomid as well as progesterone. Still I can say that for me this has been a lot easier than the trauma of them taking my child from me. I never got the chance to come to terms with the first loss. This m/c has to me almost been healing for the last one.

[JeffsPunkin]

I was diagnosed with PCOS last Dec(03) and was on glucophage xr for the longest time. I had to go off of it because of the horrible side effects it caused me to have.

This was my fourth round of Clomid. I also did a round of injectables this past august.

I won't be able to see an RE for the next two years, because we moved to Germany and our insurance doesn't cover it here. So, as soon as we move back to the states I'll be seeing them again. I think this time we'll go straight to IVF though.

In the mean time we'll be TTC naturally.

[MaryElena]

When you say you are certain, did you get confirmation from your OB/GYN that you have definately miscarried?
If so, then, sorry as I am to hear about your tragic loss, I would like to let you know that you're probably okay to let things progress naturally on your own. I went to the hospital the first time my bleeding got bad, but they really don't do anything but tell you you're having a miscarriage,duh! The second one (It's always on the weekend for some reason, when the OBGYN offices are not open) the OB on call said I could either go to the hospital or just wait until Monday, so I didn't do anything because it's like, hey, I'm either having a miscarriage or not, so if I'm am, they won't do anything, if I'm not they won't do anything, so I waited until Monday. I did not have a D&C, and I felt fortunate to be able to let things happen naturally, and I think that was the best for my body at that time.

(':crying:') So, so sorry about your loss. I hate to hear about women losing their dear babies, especially when it's not the first time.(':crying:')
ME

[angel wings]

I am in no position to do IVF and I have no intention of giving up hope yet. I have faith in the met, I think it was just too soon after I started, and that my body was just not prepared yet. I have a excess androgen problem to, I am on dexamethasone for that. Although I am not sure how long that the met should be in your system before it actually has enough effect of the IR and testosterone. I also know that it was the luteal phase defect that is responsible for this loss. The clomid is suppose to decrease that risk significantly. I will also start on a progesterone cream, before I try and conceive again, I am not sure. I am still researching that.

No I have not had my ob check me yet. Although with no more symtoms, and the bleeding and severe cramping, as well as the u/s dating early, I am quite sure of a m/c. The day I started spotting the doc also called and said that my hcg was only consistent with a 3-4 wk pregnancy. He said he wasn't concerned, but would check it at the next appt. I still have not started bleeding heavy. It is just a matter of time I am sure. I lost my medical on the first of the year, so I am not trying to get in over my head when it is not medically necessary yet. I am watching closely for all of the signs, and am checking my temp every few hours. Thank you so much for your concern. I am truly at peace. I know that God has a grand design for my life, even though I wanted this baby so much.

[MaryElena]

I'm so sorry for your loss.

Sounds like you're keeping your faith and your attitude intact. I'm really proud of you.

I'm sure you'll be okay to experience everything naturally. I did, the doctors were just there to tell me what I already knew.

We are here for you.
ME

[dbonds]

WARNING -- TMI (sorry, but thought it would be useful for you)

here's what just happened in my situation. i conceived around 11/20/04. i started suspecting i was pregnant around 12/5/04. my period was due on 12/8/04. i started testing on 12/5 and tested almost everyday from there. every single test came up with a "faint positive". on 12/14 i went to my doctor to have them do a pregnancy test. their test came back "inconclusive".

they told me it meant one of two things:
1. it is not a "normal" pregnancy and i will miscarry.
2. i'm not as far along as i thought i was.

i was given two options, another urine test a week later, or (immediately) begin blood testing to track hcg levels. i opted for urine test and went back a week later and was told i'm "definately pregnant". by now, i estimated i was ~5 weeks.

on 12/30/04 i started spotting very lightly and having minor cramps, like the beginning of a period. i called in on friday night (new years eve) and discussed with an advise nurse. she scheduled me to see my doctor on monday 1/3/05. at that appointment, the doctor did an ultrasound and found that the sac appeared empty. she said that either i'm not as far along as i originally thought (heard that one before) or the pregnancy is not developing normally and i will miscarry. she recommended i "let things happen naturally" and call back if anything changes. that night around midnight i started having massive massive massive cramps and relatively heavy bleeding (compared to the "spotting" i was having before). i had to change the pad about once per hour and i noticed i was passing some tissue-looking material. about 2 hours into the cramps, i found that my body had expelled the sac (i actually saw the sac).

i knew about 30 min into the cramps that i was miscarrying. i just knew that the pain i was having was NOT normal.

my doctor had briefed me during my appointment earlier on what i could expect if i began to miscarry. what she described was very close to what happened, and i felt comfortable with letting things progress "naturally" without seeing a doctor. i did call in the next morning and left a message for the doctor to let her know what happened. now, i'm having 1 blood test each week to monitor my hcg levels and the doctor says it should take about 1 month for the hcg level to go back to a non-pregnant measurement. since the night of the miscarriage i have experienced relatively heavy bleeding up until yesterday, when it seems like the bleeding is back to light spotting. and until yesterday, the cramps were unbearable at times. about 2 days after the miscarriage i started taking ibuprofen for the cramps, which really took the edge off.

my husband and i understand that there's nothing we could have done different to avoid the miscarriage. (there's lots of published information on line regarding miscarriages, what causes them, and how common it is to have a miscarriage)

the one thing i learned from the experience is why people probably keep it a secret. when i first got pregnant, my husband and i knew it was "risky" to tell people we were pregnant, but my opinion was that if i had a miscarriage i wouldn't really care if people knew (and i still don't care). i was a little surprised when my bio-mom (of all people) made a really nasty comment about the whole situation. she said i probably had a miscarriage because we were "trying to hard" to get pregnant. :madmad: (she's such an idiot!!!) i'm still not speaking to her.

when the doctor first told me i might miscarry, she spent a lot of time with my husband and me explaining how commom miscarriages are, and that most people just don't talk about it. after the really hateful, ignorant uneducated opinion that my bio-mom had, i now realize why people DONT talk about miscarriage more...

next time we get pregnant, she's the one person i won't tell until i'm about 8 1/2 months pregnant. (sorry for the rant, as you can see, i'm still pissed at her)

good luck to you, i hope that sharing my experience with you might help you in some way.

-denise

[MaryElena]

So sorry for your loss.

For the same reasons, I did not tell my sisters until this weekend. I didn't mind their lack of support during my 1st. m/c, but since they made the effort to do what they could to make my second m/c even worse, I really don't care to discuss my pg with them. My one still doesn't know because I didn't want to leave such news on her machine, and if she doesn't care to call me back, I really don't care if she knows she's going to be an aunt.

Again, I just hate to hear about your loss. I'm so sorry.
ME

[angel wings]

First of all I would like to thank all of you for the support. It has been a very difficult time. My husband has been such a great support. Until he came down with the flu on Sunday. I think he forgets that I am still in the process of miscarrying. Although I have been trying to take as much care of him as I can to.

I had my first doctors appt since I started spotting yesterday. We are just going to monitor the hcg and progesterone, to confirm the miscarriage at this point. Although he seemed quite concerned that I have been bleeding now for a solid week and still no tissue. So we will revisit the other possibilities next week.

Yesterday was especially hard, because after I got home I had the ultrasound results in the mail. All seemed well with the ultrasound report. Except the edd was originally 8-24 and he noted that the new edd would be 9-2-05. So sad. Well that wasn't the worst of it. On the same report were the results of my pap smear. Ugh!!! I was shocked. The last time I had an abnormal pap, I had the colposcopy, and 1 week later a cone biopsy. They took a third of my cervix.

They told me that they recommended a hysterectomy at that time, however, of course I refused. I was only 23 yo back then. At the time I thought that I was through with that concern. I thought it was done.

I am absolutely terrified as to what the future holds for my womb, as well as my life. Send me all the prayers you can!!!

Thanks all of you again for being here, and sorry so long.

[We2lj2006]

When I had my m/c back in 2004 .. I went to bed and woke up with this unbelievable pain I went to the bathroom and I started to bleed and the pain got more intense. I woke up my husband and we went to the ER and I was told I had to wait in the waiting room.. so we sat there for 1/2 hour then I was called .. with in 45 minutes later I knew I had lost it. I will say that the doctor in the ER was really cold and very rough when he did the exam...I had a complete m/c I didnt need a D&C. I was 8 weeks 2 days after the heart beat. I ended up losing the baby.

Lorrie

[Ali]

I thought I would share my story, even though i am going through it now. I am 19 years old. Around three months ago, I realized my period was late. When my period was a week late, i bought a text from a drug store. Yep, positive. Being that I am only 19, and still living at home, I was scared. My mom passed away last year, so I only live with my father. Not sure of what to do, I made a bad choice. I didn't tell anyone. Not a single person. When I was between 12 and 13 weeks a long, I noticed almost brown blood when I wiped after going to the bathroom one morning. I wasn't sure what to do about it, so I looked it up, and found that as long as it was dark brown, it was probably ok. However, the next day, the same thing. later on in the day, I started cramping. Shortly after I bled a little, and it was bright red. At this point, I knew, deep down I lad lost my baby. Over the period of the night, my cramps got worse. I laid n bed, trying to sleep, not having any luck. Around six the next morning, i realized the cramping was actually contractions. They had become much more painful,and in shorter intervals. I counldnt stand it anymore, and went into the bathroom. i got in the shower, after around an hour of crying, I felt something, and a large amount of blood and clear liquid leaked out, I would assume this was my water breaking? My cramps were so intense i considered going to the hospital, but was home alone and had no ride, so I stayed, just delaing with the pain. After another hour, i was exhausted, and went to bed with a towel under me. I slept until around 3 in the afternoon, and realized I had almost no cramps. I was spotting a little ,but not enough to worry me. At around 9, I went to the bathroom, at which point, I passed my sack. It was almost the size of my hand, and it took me a minute to push it out. It's been almost an hour since then, and I'm hardly bleeding now, and wondering if I should go to the hospital, though if I do, I'll have to tell my father. I'm taking antibiotics I had from a cold, and hope everything works out.

[borrows123]

Yup, It looks to me the you are quite near to became a mother....